I always thought I wasn’t shallow. Like I would be with any type of guy. I judged materialistic women. I judged shallow women even more hushly. This is not to say that I am materialist or superficial. Because I am not.
Let’s put it this way. We all have our preferences. Some girls like guys with money and thats what’s most attractive in guy for them and that’s fine….do you boo boo! Some girls like tall guys, height is sexy to them and that is cool too. I happen to be one of those girls who like tall guys. I personally think height is sexy. That said, there are guys who are not so tall that I would date, But I generally would not date a short guy. Height is my thing. The same way a guy would like a curvy girl and only date curvy girls.
I think to some point this is superficial but it is what it is. I’ve made my peace with it. We all have our preferences. Which is scientifically proven by the way, we have brain maps: subconscious check boxes if you will, for what we like and find attractive and what we don’t like so it’s human nature.
Don’t get me wrong though, I am not in anyway saying that it’s okay not to like someone or treat them badly just because its human nature. We all have a responsibility to each other. We, as human beings, should treat each other with respect no matter what size, colour, age, gender, sexual orientation and back ground one comes from.
All this is to say, we find certain things attractive that draws us to those people. I am drawn to tall guys. I don’t care what colour you are, you could be an Avatar or the Hulk. As long as you’re tall I’m with it. I like to tell myself that I don’t have a size preference but I do. I don’t like skinny guys and very buff guys. You can be muscular but not super buff. I also like, as a friend recently put it, chunky monkeys (lol). I don’t mind a chubby guy in fact, I like chubby guys, there’s more for me to love. They give the best hugs….I’m smiling right now just thinking about it.
Now, knowing what you like is not bad but judging people off of what you don’t like is wrong. There’s no wrong way to have a body. On that note I will do my best in the future not to judge shallow superficial gold digging women. Everyone to their own….