My friend Kui, asked me what advice I’d give to the 17 year old me, knowing what I know now. So I thought I’d write a letter to the 17 year old Wanjiru.
Dear dear 17 year old Wanjiru,
Firstly, you are beautiful! I know you have been struggling with your weight and body image. Don’t worry about it. You look good, you are gorgeous! I know you are also trying to figure out why boys are so stupid, well, I still haven’t figured that out yet because even at 23, I think they are still stupid. We are still playing stupid teenage games with each other so it really hasn’t gotten better….maybe the 28 year old us will have it together.
I don’t want to tell you what you will become, but your life has been pretty awesome so far. I will tell you this though, don’t be afraid to live. The “the good girl” role is nice but It may make you miss out on a few things. I’m not saying go wild, I’m saying, learn to let your hair down. Learn to take it easy a little.
The biggest thing I would tell you though is, you wear your heart on your sleeve too much. I’m always telling people they should let down their walls but you should do the opposite. You should build a wall to keep all the bullshit out. Trust me, some experiences are not worth it. You love and care for people very easily. That’s a good thing….for the most part. Not everyone deserves to be loved or cared for. You need to find out or rather discern who is worth it or not.
The other thing that I’m also straggling with is knowing what’s worth it to me and my self worth. I’ve been in a few situations where I felt my worth was not being recognised. It took me a while to recognise it myself but now that I know what I’m worth I refuse to be treated any less or taken for granted. I wish you learn this sooner than I did.
You have a lot going for you. You are beautiful, funny, intelligent, creative and a whole lot more. So don’t ever put yourself down or try to make yourself less than you are for anyone. You will find people who are accepting of you as you are. At twenty three I’m still looking for “the one”. There are a lot of fake “ones” out here so be careful. Don’t settle for less!
Remain passionate, remain positive, remain you. The world is full of endless possibilities. There is a place for you in this world. You just have to find it.
23 year old you.